Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm. Until you are committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. The moment you definitely commit yourself, then providence moves, too. All sorts of things occur to help you that never would have otherwise occurred. Whatever you can do or dream you can do, begin it! Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. – William Hutchison Murray, attributed to Goethe
One of the few things we can control in life, unless we are drunk or drugged! is where to point our feet
…and then what? As Abraham Maslow asked, do we step forward into growth, or back into safety?
There’s a third option, suggested by Polk, Schoendorff, Webster and Olaz (co-authors of “The Essential guide to the ACT Matrix”, 2016):
So as you step, you might step with care – forward into growth, while being mindful of your safety:
- checking that you’re going in the right direction, using your values as a compass;
- with self-compassion, making space for scary thoughts, fear and groundlessness,
- and with a breath of kindness and courage (and prayer if you have a religious or spiritual tradition).
The path is made by walking…
Here is Indiana Jones taking his famous leap, spurred on by the thought of helping his father who needs him (cheesy music alert, and a young Harrison Ford 🙂 )
You don’t need to be Indiana Jones though… In this post Jon Morrow, king of courage and blogging, writes,
The most important kind of courage isn’t found in extraordinary situations. It’s found in ordinary ones – the everyday moments that slip by without us even noticing.
A few tips,
- comfort zones have a bad rap. I think though that they can offer lovely and necessary spaces to linger, and cocoon oneself awhile. They can be places where you might shelter, regroup and strengthen yourself for journeys ahead.
- when you do venture out, be curious as you go: how might you know when you’re in the sweet spot? How might you know, what would you feel and experience, that would tell you “ah! there’s the magic, it’s happening”?
- perhaps make a collage of cheerleaders and words that you feel lifted and strengthened by, and keep it nearby.